So there's this guy

It is strange to me how much girls put on the shoulders of guys without them even knowing it. 

To a girl, one guy could be the key to her self esteem, confidence, happiness, everything and with one blow along the way shoot everything to bits in a matter of seconds. I don't understand why some of us do that, make that one guy your everything. What exactly happens when that one guy drops the ball? Steps out of the frame? 

Where is your everything now? 

When the guy changes his mind, wants something different, keeps moving, pursues other goals in his own life he takes your world with him unknowingly. That shouldn't be the end of the world for us. It shouldn't cause some sort of stereotypical psycho girl melt down. It blows my mind when I see this. I don't feel compassion for the stupid girl who put all her eggs (and self image, self respect, moral compus, excreta...) in one basket. I just want to throw my hands in the air and say,

 'Yeah, I could have found a much more logical way for disposing of all those eggs, like throwing them at a fan or something.'

It shouldn't be a guys job to carry all that for us, that isn't fair to them and never fair to ourselves. We should be self dependable, self reliant, self motivated. Making your happiness dependent on someone else unhealthy and wrong. It will only bring you pain in the long run. Girls have to realize that they have been happy before a guy and can be happy after them. 

Let them make your happier instead, let them add to your confidence and your love for yourself, but don't make them the factor of if you love yourself or not. I have many men in my life that make me happier, make me smile and blush at complements, but none of them hold all my eggs, they just help me paint them, they add to me, and who I am. They sometimes remind me who I am, remind me what I am worth, get me back on track in positive thinking about myself but they don't control everything.

I wish more girls would understand that. I wish I didn't cringe at the words "So there's this guy.." because I know that will eventually come back to bite them. 

I guess this doesn't only apply to girls and guys, it really applies to anyone. No single person should hold your key to being happy. Okay rant over.

Plus self confidence is much prettier on a girl then desperate dependency.    

Okay, now I'm really done.